Sense of Entitlement

I am slightly irritated this morning.

Why do some men feel as if they have a sense of entitlement to you because you're single, attractive or your ethnicity? Recently I've encountered this and it perplexes me so.

Anyways, I have angered someone but after thinking about things and how he responded to my initial refusal of his advances (or at least my take on it)...I don't give a fuck. For a few months now this person has let it be known that he was somewhat attracted to me and for a few months I have either told him that a) I was seriously taken or b) Nothing. I had hoped by not responding to his flirtation he'd eventually get the hint that I wasn't interested.

Nope.



It's been fairly quiet for awhile until just recently he noticed I was single so he threw out an open invitation. I must admit, that there is no physical attraction to this man what so ever. I know what I want and I know what I like so why play the game? I never really TOLD him, "look you're not my type", I let it be known that I was recently single and not looking as I still loved my ex very much so. Also, I just didn't want to hurt his feelings as he seemed like a nice/intelligent guy, just not for me. Usually, if I'm attracted to someone, I let it be known. I'm not that shy. I responded to him and received a very unpleasant response.

It left me with the feeling that this man felt a bit of entitlement and is slightly angry at women who turn him down. It felt as if my reasons seemed not enough to satisfy him or his curiosity - I had mentioned I don't want anyone or anything serious or nothing in that direction. And if I was interested, I would have asked him out.

I don't know, his response left a bad taste in my mouth and instantly made me realize that my intuition is still as sharp as can be.

After talking with my girlfriend about it, who was enraged at his arrogance...I decided to send him another response and finally told him bluntly that I was just not attracted to him and mentioned what I liked, what kind of man I liked. Mean? Maybe? Probably. But I feel that it was the only way to get my point across. If I posted what he wrote, I think you'd agree.

The thing is, some men can be so aggressive to the point of harassment when some girl they find attractive does not respond to their advances. They will keep trying OR once they realize there no chance they will get evil. I've been called a "bitch" by some men, even in the last year when I was taken and my line was "I'm not available, I have someone!" It's crazy that certain men think that they're entitled to give you any time of day if you're not feeling it. Why should I have to talk to someone just because they say hello, lemme get at you? Please. It's a waste of my time and a waste of theirs for certain.

To be honest, this man probably has great traits, I know he has a lot going on and is a brilliant writer, however, nothing that he has appeals to me. At the time, as a cyberfriend sure, in real life? No.

I will admit that at this time in my life I choose to be "vain". I want someone who I immediately say WOW to as well as someone who stimulates me mentally, and someone creative does not hurt ie. I dig artists. Being recently single, I am all about looks and physiques. This is my prerogative. As I stated earlier, I'm okay looking, I have no problem getting men. Some would say I'm picky. Hell yes I am. Will I think later I made a mistake? Nope. Not my type. I don't even want to give this man a chance. He doesn't have to tell me about his triumphs, doesn't have to list his good attributes, doesn't have to impress me, I just know what I want and unfortunately (or fortunately) it's not him. Ov Vey, the perils of being single.

I was speaking to a girlfriend earlier and I put it like this to her "I want Lenny Kravitz, not Urkel." I guess it's as simple as that.